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What I ate in the month December

I find it always so strange to look back at my own food. It is something that has become so strange to me, because it’s just food. It is tasty and I move on. I hope for the peeps who are reading this and do struggle with being to fixated on their food, that this can be you to someday :).

So this was my take out moment, that thanks to miss Rona became a more frequent thing in 2020. There’s some Chinese in these bags. I am very closely friends with a fam who has a Chinese restaurant.
In this photo I was explaining to my mom why having a drink with some sweetener is not a bad thing when your cholesterol levels are high. I can drink both without having any mixed feelings. Thank god!
My new love is chocolate spread and I had a little Serrano, but I am not a big fan of salty things. Yes, I have no plate. I am hella lazy with that, but somehow I can wipe the table with alcohol wipes….
My new year food with the fam, thanks to my boss <3.
When there are tomatoes involved, you can bet that I was lazy and did not want to cook. Just like in this pic.
This was for little Dino. He loves his Brussel sprouts!
The addiction is real…
The base
The end product. I just love a salad with somethin crispy in it! This fish a fish schnitzel.
This was the first time for me eating a Big Mac. I was in Belgium when I did.
And it get’s a D or a 4. It was dry and I just cannot understand the hype for a second..
This is my favo. I mostly come to Mcdonalds for the ice cream XD.
I bought chocolates for my friend her birthday, but I needed one to finish my meal whaha oeps..
My regular health check. I always eat at least two pieces of fruit a day and some veggies to keep my health on track.
My bestie made bananabread and I was out of food
That was my first proteinshake in six months
One of my other addictions..
This actually was the base for the wine I was drinking afterwards XD
And this one was nice! Kinda sweet & dry with a hint of melon
Quick meals are my favorite
I just snack on chickpeas from a can. Am I the only one?
Popcorn for me, but also for him 😉
I ate fries at least three times a month. This is however from the airfryer.
One of my favorite peeps gave me this card :’). I adore her mindset and really wish that she get’s all what she wishes for.
My boss made me and my friend thanksgiving dinner. It is do damn cute :’). He does not even celebrate the birth of Jesus. What makes this extra special. It shows that if we care for each other everything is possible.
random snack
My sis is in the USA and misses Surinam food. So she makes some. Good effort ineed!

Me taking out food again haha. Guys I hoped you got some inspo from this or it calmed you down. I ate it all and am still the same. So, no worries!

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Mental health around food

person holding note with be kind text

I am writing this blog as an addition to my last podcast episode #20 foodshaming. If you haven’t checked that one out, please do. This is going to be a short blog dear, so my apologies if you were expecting a long one. Food is what unite people and not only at parties or the choices we make around food. Even the problems that we face around food unites us. But somehow in society, they divided us…

I have been helping people with weight loss, weight gain, eating disorders and gaining back their periods. All these people face similair problems. Too much movement, low calorie diets, a lot of stress around food, lost a lot of weight or gained a lot of weight back again. Can’t stop binging, restriction from certain foods and so on!

We learned from society that these groups have certain looks, a certain weight and a certain sets of problems. But that is not the case! A person that is overweight also can have habits of restricting and purging, a person who has an eating disorder and relapses faces the same as a person that lose weight and relapses.

We should take each other problems serious and we should be kind to each other. Otherwise, no improvements can be made on all the sides. Be kind and try nog to judge someone situation. And don’t forget for yourself. Your current situation is not your final destination.

Yours,

Queeny

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Why are you afraid to let calorie counting go?

Aahh calorie counting. I hate it that consumers have access to this :,). Not because I don’t want them to know. It’s good to gain more knowledge as a person with a goal. Makes the opportunity of succeeding higher. But it comes with a price. Let’s say a mental health price. For my own practice, two months tops of Myfitnesspal is enough!! Not a day more and even less is something I advocate. Get some insight in how much rice weighs per portion, how much oil is a good idea and call it a quits!

I work as a coach at a company and clients that mostly come to me either hate calorie counting, don’t do it completely or got a totally fucked up relationship with food eventually. This last thing is something that a lot of people really do not take seriously when they download Myfitnesspal in the beginning. If you feel anxious, because you can’t eat a meal you cannot track. You have a problem!

If you feel anxious, because the battery of your foodscale broke down. You have a problem. As a person who has been there, I am not afraid to say this. And the amount of suffering it gave, is something I would never like to have for others. People trust the food scale more than themselves !?€@#%!?? It is such a hard habit to get out of your system! So better do it now. You are not a bikinifitness model, you are not on prep and you won’t gain all the weight back!!!!

Especially this last one. This is the whole reason why people can’t stop. “Oohh I found a formula to keep myself forever this way”! Well, I can tell you this. It will not be forever. Maybe you have been struggling for years and years with your weight, but this is not the awnser. It’s a tool for insight in calories. Myfitnesspal is just like a diet. It will work for some time, but will lose it charms in the end. Cuz when you stop following it, depending how you react to it, you could gain some weight back. It’s the lie that everyone tells themselves. That calorie counting is not a diet, well guess what, it is!

So if you stop today, maybe stay the same in weight or gain 2-4 pounds (1-2 kilo). Your real lifestyle change can begin. People who use calorie counting often can calorie count when by themselves. But when getting a partner, being with friends or with your own damn kids later on. The craziness of it, will show. Getting to listen to your body, cravings, making healthy choices and sometimes nibble on something less nutritious and staying in balance. Is the key! You already can do that without that app, millions of people show that everyday. And guess what, your weight will always go up and down (2/4 pounds, 1-2kilo) and that is healthy. People think the scale either needs to go down or stay at the same number for all the weeks of the year……

Start with putting the food scale away. Than only use the app for a while. Challenge yourself to eyeball foods and drinks more. Become more easy with tracking (not specific with macro’s). And let it go. To be honest. This has been a thing for me for so long that I actually really am considering to not even start as a dietitian, because this bugs the shit out of me. It really takes away the joy of my work personally. Because I know that at the end, that people who are using this now are gonna give the biggest tantrums on not letting go. While I never even recommended it, but they start looking for information at the wrong sources or twist your advice…

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If you think therapy will have all the answers…

Hello readers,

Therapy is something a lot of people with an eating disorder either fear, look up to or do not take serious at all. For all of those people this article could be helpful. I have some sentences that I will put into this article from a lady I spoke to on Instagram. That went crazy quick and I am thankful that people read these!

What’s in it for you?

Depending on how you look at it. It either is very helpful or not at all. ‘When I first went to therapy, they (GP and dietitian) told me that talking about it would help and speed up the proces’. Therapy and talking about your thoughts should help and  yes it’s very nerve wrecking to talk about all the dark thoughts going on in your head, but you will feel relieved. It does depends how you ‘walk into therapy’. A lot of women and men with an eating disorder are often dishonest about either their foodintake or on how hard they work on the assignments they get from the therapist.

And I get that. There is so much going on and you know deep down it’s not oke what you are doing to yourself. The funny thing is, saying it out loud is actually the first steps to recovery. The shame you feel from talking about it is recovery. Having insight in these thoughts is recovery.

I always thought and I still believe; that working without judgement with a person suffering from an eating disorder is key. But sometimes it helps to be a bit judgy, because some people do get insight that the behavior is not something you should be proud of or is even harmful.

Your mindset stepping into therapy.

Wauw! The amount of people who walk into therapy not taking it serious or the amount of people who thinks it’s gonna ‘cure’ them is so big. And you know what, both are wrong. I highly advice you to go there with an open mind and blank thoughts.

Does this person really have the answers?

Well no, not one single helper in your journey will have all the answers. They do however have tips & tricks and I highly advice you to listen to them and use them in everyday life. How sooner you say yes to recovery, how sooner this will ends.

Much love,

Queeny